I have a match!!

_TOL9195I have officially been matched with a family from China! I cannot wait to get the process started and help this family out. Although I am a tad nervous about meeting them at the end of this month. I’m sure everything will go amazing and it will be a great emotional meeting but I’m always worried that my first impression might not be great. I keep getting asked a lot how I’m doing with things especially because they are happening so fast…..I’m doing pretty well with it all but of course I have things that I’m worried about and some emotional things to work through. I need to wean my son in order to start the IVF process. Yes I have been blessed with an amazing nursing relationship with him for almost 3 years its still bittersweet that it will soon come to an end. I plan on cutting out feedings(which are really only 1-2 per day) slowly until we drop all feedings. It really does take a tole on my heart but I know that our journey has been amazing and I’m very thankful for this bond we have shared. So far the process is going well and slow just like I wanted. Hes nursing once a day now usually at night but there are times I feel the need to nurse him in the daytime so I do :/.

A lot of people have been asking me how I’m doing and making the comments they could never do this. Most of these comments steam from not really truly knowing how surrogacy works. There is still a lot left that I have to learn about the process. I can tell one thing to my readers is that this child I will be carrying is in no way my own child! This is all done through IVF either using the IP’s egg and sperm or a donor. I feel that most people hear the word surrogate and think that I’ll be having a baby with some stranger and giving away MY child to them when this is just simply not the case. I am a gestational surrogate not a traditional. I really hope that clears up any misunderstandings that people may have had.

Last night I had the pleasure of listing to a friend and past surrogate tell all about her journey to bless 2 different families with twins! She shared the ups and downs and brought a beautiful album that was put together by her from the intended mother full of pictures before during and after the process. I thought it was such a great little gift she got. I learned so much last night and bombarded her with questions about legal stuff, medical and psych exams. I think now I have a little bit clearer understanding of how it all works. I feel nervous because that little fear of the unknown is always enough to drive someone crazy. My paperwork has kind of came to a little hault waiting for my husband to return so he can sign the paperwork as well. That is my current update and I look forward to my next post being about medical appts and other important dates on this journey!



Photographer, Doula and Placenta Encapsulation Specialist searving the Central California area of Visalia/Tulare/Exeter/Fresno/Clovis and more.... Birth in itself is an amazing rite of passage. It is an empowering journey a woman takes into motherhood. I believe that every woman should be able to have the birth they desire whether it be in a hospital at home or in a birth center. As a doula I love to provide education to families so that it enables them to make educated choices when it comes to their labor and delivery.

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