Denise

Photographer, Doula and Placenta Encapsulation Specialist searving the Central California area of Visalia/Tulare/Exeter/Fresno/Clovis and more.... Birth in itself is an amazing rite of passage. It is an empowering journey a woman takes into motherhood. I believe that every woman should be able to have the birth they desire whether it be in a hospital at home or in a birth center. As a doula I love to provide education to families so that it enables them to make educated choices when it comes to their labor and delivery.

So I’ve decided to be a………..

I have decided to become a surrogate mother! This is something that I wanted to do for awhile now but felt I needed to feel done having my own children in order to do it. Now that my family is complete  I’m feeling very eager and excited to start this process and help another family have a child. I have decided to blog about my entire journey before, during and after pregnancy. I’m looking forward to sharing the experience with others and hopefully inspire another to give this same gift to a deserving couple. I will be sharing my journey through being matched with a couple, the entire process of paperwork and legal stuff. After that is all done I will be taking photos and sharing my journey through the IVF process until conception! I really do look forward to sharing this with my readers. My profile is already on hold being reviewed by a couple and I hope that they choose me to deliver that special gift for them.

 

Blessing,

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My journey to becoming a full term nursing mother……..

I have never thought to write about my long road to becoming a full term nurser and huge breastfeeding advocate. I even run a breastfeeding support group now on Facebook! I haven’t even really shared my story with many others. I decided its time to sit down and share my experience in hopes that it will help another mother that may be going through the same struggle I was.

I found out I was pregnant with my first child in the fall of 2004. I hadn’t given much thought on the subject of breastfeeding because I knew from the moment I was pregnant that I wouldn’t be breastfeeding. That was it my mind was made up, why would I breastfeed a child from the breast that were used in a sexual manner. I mean how disgusting would that be! At the age of 19 I couldn’t even fathom the thought of nursing a child. I mean at the time in my life I was newly married and just found out I was expecting a child. My husband was already enlisted and we were preparing for him to leave for boot camp in May, mind you that my due date was July(he of course missed the birth). My mother didn’t not breastfeed my brother because he was a micro preemie in the early 80′s. I’ve asked her why she didn’t breastfeed me and she said because she didn’t want to nurse me in front of my 3 year old brother! Her mother didn’t breastfeed either of her children either. I was so young non of my friends really had children so no one that I knew really breastfed a child besides my grandma whom I didn’t get to see that often. She graciously nourished 8 kids from her breast and even tandem nursed my father and uncle.(HOW AMAZING.) My husband never suggested of brought up to me that he thought I should breastfeed our children. It was just something we never talked about. So on July 1st 2005 I gave birth to my first child a girl! She was light of my life and we named her Isis. I remember at that time I was never once asked at the hospital if I would be breastfeeding or not. I wasn’t encouraged by any of the staff to give it a try. I just remember packing my bags the days before my due date and making sure I packed my little formula bottles I had bought to take for our hospital stay. My oldest daughter never had a drop of breast milk and no second thought was given by me or my husband. When my daughter was 5 1/2 months old I found myself pregnant with our second child. Much of a shock that it was to us we dealt with it and made the best of the situation.

In January of 2006 we moved to Washington state and started our life as a navy family. This is when my feelings on breastfeeding began to change. I remember always feeling really awkward and uncomfortable when I saw a mother nursing in public. I would made snide comments like wow she needs to cover that up! I made friends with my neighbor who had just recently had a baby. She was breastfeeding her son and I quickly learned to  be set aside my feelings and slowly began to feel comfortable around her nursing. In the area of California that I’m from it isn’t common to see a woman in public breastfeeding. For example I’ve been living back in my home area since September 2011 and I can count on 1 hand the number of times I’ve seen a nursing mother out in public. Washington was a totally different culture and really opened my eyes to things. I gave birth to my 2nd child another girl in August 2006. We named her Athena and she also was strictly formula fed. I remember my neighbor asking me why I didn’t want to breastfed and encouraging me to try it because it was the best for baby. She explained how close she felt to her baby when nursing him and how it was such a wonderful bond. I admit I really almost gave it a try but something kept telling me to just stick with what I was doing and not listen to anyone but myself. My 2nd daughter had serve colic for the first 10 weeks of her life. My husband and I decided in November of 2007 we would try for another child after 3 miscarriages we finally conceived our 3rd child in March of 2009! I still knew I was going to formula feed because that is what I did with my other children. How could it be fair to them if I decided to nurse my 3rd. That was the mindset I had for my entire pregnancy and even after delivery. My 3rd child was born in December of 2009 we had our first son and named him Thayden.

Thayden’s first few feedings in the hospital were formula the first night in the hospital he became really fussy and uncomfortable. I was trying everything to keep him calm and comfort him but it just seemed like nothing worked. I was in my room with just my husband who was asleep and I decided to try to breastfed him. After all this was supposed to be our last child and the thought of never experiencing breastfeeding was disturbing to me.  I had no clue what I was doing and just hoped that from watching a few friends over the last 3 years I could figure it out. I remember feeling really nervous and I at that time feared my husband would wake up and be totally sickened by the fact that I was trying to breastfed. I set those feelings aside and took down the left side of my hospital gown. I held my son in a cradle like hold and tried to latch him. I couldn’t believe it!!! He latched the first try, how on earth could it be this easy I thought to myself. He nurse for 30 minutes and was soon asleep and the fussing had stopped. That moment of our first latch I just remember the semi awkward feeling of him latching but then a flood of emotions and love. I continued to nurse him and formula feed him for the rest of my hospital stay. I had decided at that point that I would do both formula and breast milk. Once I got home with him I found it easier to just breastfeed him and so that is what we did for the most part. If I was around someone and didn’t want to nurse I pumped milk and fed him the milk by bottle. Around 3 1/2 months I noticed my son becoming really fussy after feedings acting as if he were still hungry. I was feeling disappointed and almost like my body was failing me. How could I have come so far in my journey of breastfeeding for it to end so suddenly. At the age of 4-4 1/2 months my milk supply completely diminished and my son went back to an exclusive diet of formula. I later found out that my son was tongue tied and the milk transfer was insufficient which caused my milk supply to diminish over time.

Fast forward 9 months after the birth of my 3rd child SURPRISE! I find out that I’m now expecting our 4th child. I knew from the moment I was pregnant that I was going to breastfeed him. I didn’t buy any bottles, formula or anything that could set myself up for disaster. I read a ton of information and had my husband on my side super supportive of my choice. I also had 2 amazing midwives that always encouraged me to breastfeed. It was a totally different go around from when I had my first child. We had now been living in San Diego since October 2009. This time I had planned a home birth with midwives because I wasn’t happy with my hospital birthing experiences(but that’s a different story for a different day) In June of 2011 at 41 weeks I gave birth in my bedroom on my bed to my 4th child. He was caught by his daddy and handed to me right away. Soon after birth we spent hours nursing and skin to skin. This was something I had never done with my other children but yet it felt so natural to me. I couldn’t imagine it any other way. I decided to pump milk as well to have some frozen and on hand in case I had to miss a feeding or something happened and I had to be hospitalized. In the first 8 weeks of my sons life I was able to nurse him exclusively and pump 550oz of milk. I was a milk making machine but soon my supply established and I discontinued pumping. I found out at my sons 3 day appt that he was tongue tied as well. My midwife gave me some great advice on latching and ways to work around it. I was having some awful blistering on my nipples and cracking. It was caused by a bad latch but with her help and advice I was able to correct the issues and move forward with no problems. My sons tongue tie was never clipped.  We moved from San Diego back to our home town of Visalia CA in September of 2011. I made sure my milk was transported in a cooler of dry ice. I used majority of the pumped milk to make his baby food and also to let daddy feed him. When my son was around 9 months old I began pumping my milk again so I could make a milk donation to a local woman who was pregnant and had breast cancer. She was unable to breastfeed her baby and I felt the need to do this for her. How could it be possible, a self proclaimed breastfeeding hater turned nursing advocate and milk donor! My feelings have changed so drastically that I now regret not breastfeeding my daughters, it is something I wish that I could go back and change. I know that I cannot change it but I can help encourage and support mothers who may be feeling the same way I was.

It is now 2014 and my son will be turning 3 in June. We are still happily nursing and I couldn’t imagine forcing him to wean. The plan is to let him do child led weaning and be done when he is ready. So that is in a nutshell my journey to becoming a nursing mother of a toddler after a huge struggle with my own personal feelings. My biggest piece of advice for new mothers that may be having the same feelings I was is to surround yourself with supportive, encouraging people. Do some soul searching and try and understand why your feeling this way. My issue with breastfeeding was the fact that our society is raised with breast being sexualized and that made me uncomfortable with the thought of nursing. If I would have been exposed to breastfeeding as a totally normal aspect of life and child bearing I wouldn’t have had such strong feelings against it. If you are feeling this way and are local to the Visalia/Tulare CA area please do not hesitate to contact me. I would be happy to talk to anyone or answer questions.

 

This are photos of my son at 15 months and 24 months. We are excited to take our 3 year breastfeeding pictures in June! I hope that you enjoyed reading my story…..

Blessings,

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Charlotte’s 6 month session!

Charlotte is seriously one of the happiest babies I’ve ever photographed! I was blessed to be there on the day of her arrival and get to continue watching her grow up and play the role of “Auntie”. I am already looking forward to this little girls 9 month session and 1 year cake smash! I just cannot believe shes already half a year old. Time sure does seem to go by fast once you have children. I hope you enjoy these photos as much as I do.

Blessings,

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The Birth of Charlotte Isabelle

On the night of August 20th, 2013 I was texting with my amazing best friend Kristen. She told me that she had been having contractions and thought this might be it. I got all my gear ready to go because this was a birth I couldn’t miss. Off and on throughout the night we continued to text until I fell asleep. I finally received the text from her husband that she was admitted and that I could come now. This birth was such an amazing experience for me because I got to be there and witness my best friend give birth to a precious baby girl that she tried so hard to have. I arrived at the hospital close to 8:30 and started capturing this amazing story. After just a little over 2 hours of me being there she birthed a beautiful baby girl. I want to say congratulation to Kristen and Daniel on the birth of their beautiful baby!

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Spring Mini Session!

I’m so please to share with you that I will be holding my spring mini sessions! These sessions will take place in the beautiful almond orchard blossoms! Spot are limited so don’t wait and book yours today.

Sincerely,

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What’s New in 2014!

_TOL5985I’m so excited for the start of the New Year!  2013 was an amazing year full of amazing clients.  In 2013 I was honored to photograph the special deliveries of 5 babies (4 girls, 1 boy).  I think it is safe to say that it was the year for girls.  I also provided placenta services to over a dozen new mothers.  I feel so blessed to be able to help them have a fantastic postpartum recovery.

 

So what does 2014 have to offer that 2013 did not?  Lots of new things and a totally reworked affordable pricing structure!!!  A few new things to look forward to with placenta encapsulation is cord keepsakes and placenta prints (for those interested).  I’m also now offering placenta tincture!!  Just adding more great ways to use this amazing Tree of Life.

 

My birth photography pricing is now more affordable and I’m offering flexible payment plans.  Fresh 48 Sessions are now available as well.  So if birth photography isn’t something you’re interested in but still want beautiful photos of those precious first moments, a Fresh 48 session will be a perfect fit.  Album prices are lower as well as keep sake box with prints.

 

Lots of changes for the 2014 year!  There are also changes that will be happening throughout the year and new services that will be added, so be sure to follow me on Facebook to get up to date information on those great changes as well.

 

Sincerely,

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Welcome!

Welcome to the newly re-launched Tree of Life Photography and Birth Services web page!  I hope that you love the fresh new look as much as I do.  I want to thank Kristina at MotoMeta for taking the time to make this amazing site!

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I hope that while visiting my new site you find the information you’re looking for with ease.  If you have any questions about the services I offer, please feel free to use the contact tab and send me an email!


Thank you for stopping by my site and I hope to hear from you soon!

Blessings,

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